Behavior Modification in Less than a Second
MAKING BETTER DECISIONS ...
~ Becoming a better listener / better conversationalist
~ Making more intelligent responses to everything
~ Engaging your mind before engaging your mouth
~ Engaging your brain before engaging anything physical thus preventing injuries
~ Engaging your mind to avoid overload and a primitive fight/flight response
Pause is a method which gives your mind time to compute the situation and return with information necessary to act appropriately.
Telling yourself to wait, and making it loud enough, will give you that urgent split second to reassess before moving ahead.
PAUSE IN THE REAL WORLD:
Is it possible that something as simple as a pause can make the difference between regular and excellence?
In basketball, the player’s physical effort to get within shooting range or to muscle ones way to the hoop must include a moment, a pause, as the player adjusts for the shot. The drive to the hoop holds too much energy in forward momentum, so it is the pause that makes an adjustment for a softer good feeling shot possible.
Is it not the pause in Golf where we hold our breath to see the golfer take his swing?
During the pause, the mind makes all the calculations so the golfer need not think about the details. The experience will pay off as the golfer relaxes into the swing.
In fencing, we use all our physical efforts to move within range of our opponent and then gain the right of way by extending our arm to prepare to touch and score. It is all surrendered to a fraction of a second pause so we may reassure ourselves that we will successfully depress our point against our opponent in order to register a score.
In conversation, the pause will make for a more thoughtful response. It gives the speaker the feeling that they are being listened to and opens the door to more productive and agreeable discussions. (Pause will avoid the old saying, What is the opposite of talking? Waiting to talk.)
What would dance, music, song or even lovemaking be without a pause, a breath and a moment of appreciation?
It is the pause in the music that can give it true beauty or the pause in a dance that readies us for a new movement, rhythm, or direction. Sometimes, the pause in a dance allows us to stabilize ourselves as we come back to the music.
It is the Pause that gives us the chance to be in the moment. Take a moment in every situation and every discourse to pause. That simple moment or two can have a significant impact on one’s life. It allows our brain to catch up with whatever it is that we are doing. We become more connected and a better outcome is assured.
I am beholden to the phrase:
" Enlightenment is the result of our thoughts being a certain distance apart.”
Give yourself the gift of Pause.